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For once, I’ll take it. Then, twice, I’ll still take it (although I really, really wanna smash you guys face.) Come third times, I’ll walk off.  Well, that’s what I think I will do if it happens again. ‘Coz I think enough means enough. Tolerance has its limit. Things are not funny being repeated and repeat again.

Moreover you guys are my best buddies and it’s kinda heartache to be put on a spot, especially when acted in group. I feel like some sort of betrayal. Forgive me saying so but it’s just my feeling at that moment, I keep in my heart. Maybe I’m not being sporting, some might say… but to me, is not a matter of being sporting or not.

It’s just a personal value. And I often believe one has a choice to do something or not to despite of whatever persuasion, forces or thinking that come along the way. If the stand is strong nobody can sway it.       

Take drinking for example. Why do friends want to see their friends drink and get drunk? And why do the friends need to compel to drink? Is able to drink one round after another is a cool gesture, being perceived sporting or is a way to be accepted among the peers? Tell me.  

Whether a good drinker or not, why would one wants to make public his own strength or weakness? People will still get you to drink regardless yes or no. And if you refuse to drink, people make fun teasing you, again and again. What’s the point here? 

There’s this uncle in the family, which many of the cousins don’t quite like to mingle during their young age. ‘Coz uncle like to lecture for good whenever we gather. And nowadays, being the youngest girl among the cousins, I’m the common victim. He often says, “Sip like a lady. Don’t drink!” “I saw you drinking before, and that’s not the way a girl should drink!” Really, his sentence gets me into thinking when had he saw me in action before? Was it during one of the family occasions? Or he was coincidently there when I was hanging out? I really have no idea, and I just listen to his very same speeches as a respect to the elderly.    

In fact, which parents like their children active in drinking. I know my parents, they don’t and discourage. It’s not that we can’t drink but we got to know our limits and responsibility. Especially being a daughter, more concern they are. If one day I came home drunk, I wonder what will happen. Disappointed faces and talks, and because trust is broken, it takes harder time to regain for myself and for the friends I hold closely in heart.

Whatever it is, all I wanted to express is that I sincerely treasure our friendships, which I hope we can keep going for many decades more in life. Maybe I’m just being emo here, which I am at times.  It’s just not funny anymore, PLEASE STOP. Period.

Another year has come.

Wonder why have it been like this in recent years.

Whenever it’s soon approaching, the period before it often is unpleasant.

Have I been thinking too much?

As if an alarm clock is pre-set to alert especially during this phase.

Why the day comes with ‘happy’?

And family and friends shower with greetings on that day.

It works this way, I think.

It’s a new day in life, each year around.

So, the new washes the old.

A new year will bring goodness, washing away the ugly ones.

And it’s to therefore celebrate.

Be remembered once again to live life happily and fulfilling.

Time to rejoice, happy…….

3 women, in their late 20s or early 30s were dining in a steak house. One of them sighed, “Where has all the good man goes?” At a glance, they look presentable, independent working ladies. Wondering if there’s any thing wrong on earth, why is the population of good men is becoming lesser in numbers? Excludes those that already belongs to others, why are there many good ones turn homo? And what is there to spare on?

Lots of questions filled the air, one by one.

Will any of them consider a divorced man for a relationship? Well, if there’s a choice, obviously not. Even said so, this kind of thing is hard to predict. Because love is blind, and when you deeply in love with someone, you will take in the whole package. You wouldn’t know your standing, not until that day enters your life when you finally have to decide.

Then, can you accept being the second wife? Of course there’s no such thing as second wife in Malaysia monogamy practice, except for Malays. So, specifically, a mistress it is. Well, if you asked me, I always try to opt out from this kind of triangle relations ‘coz it’s meaningless. But, it’s totally bizarre input when I heard one of the lass said she doesn’t mind, as long it’s on contractual basis, 1 year for max. Wow! Not so bad idea afterall, leisure and shopping freedom with financial relief from the man. 

Will you consider other races? Mixed replies; one accepts only their skin colour. One thinks it’s not an issue after experiencing herself with different cultures. Then the other one remains silent, unsure. To what extend?   

Does age matter then? No one likes someone younger in general. However, like said, love is blind. There are happy couples where the hubby is younger than the wife, and they can still live blissfully together. On the other hand, what’s the max age of the opposite sex that you’ll still consider? 6 to 7 years still Ok. What if, 10 years or more? Tough,… but if he’s someone who holds high position in a corporation or someone who’s own boss, chances still alive. Maybe some will think this is so materialistic-minded, but putting yourself into these woman shoes, you’ll see the underlying needs that woman needs security, assurance and stability from their partners.

What if the man is 10 years older, successful businessman but then is balding? What’s the likelihood then? Shocked, everyone kept silent. None dare to think further. It’s totally understandable. Who doesn’t want a partner that they can proudly bring on to public? Looks of course is important. Not to demand a 100% handsome looking one, but somehow it does matters.

Hmm, “why we are still single?” The question popped up again.

It’s not that there are no single friends around, then why not give a try getting together? “What?!! Come on, friend is friend, no crossing border” in a very serious expression I saw on this lady face. “Why don’t you try then?” she adds on. Interesting, I thought. Well, if there’s no feeling or the cliché so-called ‘chemistry’, how can it work? It’s just not your cup of tea. Life always makes fun on people. Those you like seem harder to get closer with, and those that you dislike but like you keep showing up in front of you. Isn’t it annoying? Haha.

So what is their problem? Are these woman has becoming choosy in picking up their partner of life? Make me wonder too. I try to explore and then I see the horizon and I come to realise. Because time is running out, they need to get the right one this time around. Theirs ultimate is to have found someone best fit walking down the aisle together one day and living happily ever after. Deep down, all woman asks for is the joy of sharing, embrace in tenderness and care, feeling love and beloved without worrying about future, spending many good laughter times with her dearly spouse together for the rest of her life .

So to these 3 little women (and others of similar fate out there), I wish upon the star that it will soon bring you luck in meeting your prince charming!! Lets the love blossoms

Following goong, that cute lil’ princess starring again in Coffee Prince which be hitting the local terrestrial tv very soon, this Friday to be exact. Thanks to Bobo, I’ll be watching the last 2 discs this evening. Been started to watch since last Friday, total episodes available – 17.

Cute Eun-Hye & cutesy lead actor, story about cousins falling for the same girl…. Hehe. Another pop-idol romance Korean drama. Quite a nice story, picking up a lil’ bit on art of brewing coffee. Just that the movie consists of many arguments that make the drama going, which I feel too much, kinda dull. Nevertheless, I started to realize that every drama of this genre have similarity, for instance, couples like to suddenly run to the partner and hug from the back, or they like to lie side by side and playing legs together and so on.  Overall, a pleasant flick, but nothing beat goong still.

Why such a thinking and feeling? Just don’t know. Taking words from JiaDi, “no disappointment when there’s no expectation”, I living in it. At one moment, I thought it is nice…then come the weekend, it changes. Suddenly, and the coffee is no longer brewing. What’s wrong, what’s bothering? Trying to think and feel about it for few days, just can’t figure the picture still. Maybe, I should stop thinking as babe mentioned; follow the flow, like she should too now. It has always been like that, bubbly and sweetie pies fated to cross the same path same time. And at times like this, we become each other pillar of strength and advice.

Hmm, soon chi jer ruan like my fave number rhymes. So, let have the barista master the skill and brew the nicest coffee at the right temperature, completes with aroma, taste and texture. Make me my cup of coffee that I like to have every morning.

For most, holidays had just over. For me, it hasn’t stop right here. Can’t wait, 9 more days from now ‘we are flying on a jet plane’. Didadidi…dadidadi.

Forget the past, it is 2008 now. It was quite unpleasant for last few weeks, thus I hope 2008 will bring peace to home and a guardian angel for the lucky star glow even when the sky fall dark.

Ushering in 2008, the whole family went countdown at Wynners concert except me. Not my cup of tea. Just feel like running away, rather being alone.

For every choice made, there’s consequence. As if things are preset to occur in such way. I enter into a world of fantasy, role-playing as one of those people from my faves.

It’s so mesmerizing, so ‘pride’ fireworks moment. As if, reunited after a long wait, ‘maybe’, enjoying the beautiful sparks blossom way up in the skies. Complete with all the gestures of care.

Little buddy, although not as cute as Yul, but walking in between gave ‘goong’ like feel. Surely it’s charming to let gaze into beautiful sparking eyes as if they can express words. Hmmm, the world is so nice to be wrapped in all these gentleness.

And with recent addition, isn’t it a spoilt for choice. ‘why why love’ is about picking up among choices. Desiring one, hope being with another. Who’s the one that will sweep your heart away?

….… after a while…. “Hey!” Wakey wakey. It’s the second day into 2008, still not have enough of daydreaming? Hahahaha….. too much dramas.

Well, it has been long since I write short love notes. Almost a decade now. Back then, I thought I’ll become a writer/novelist someday, but now I’m writing junks.

Anyway, thank you for a wonderful ending the year… or the beginning J 

Yup, that it is. The feelings I’m really in….

Friends been asking why is it that I’m having so wonderful feeling and what so wonderful about it. All have been wondering what’s happening to this lucky star girl J

The answer is really easy. Living life fullest is the greatest of all. Indulge and pamper yourself. It’s so soooo gratifying. Hahaha… I guess I’ve rewarded myself too much lately… spendthrift huh May. Not sure what’s happening inside the brain box. It’s like birthday wasn’t not so long ago and Xmas is not far from now. Got myself feasting & hanging out a lot, new hairdo, new spec, new wallet, new watch, new cosmetics, massage, makeup course, etc, etc. And the list doesn’t stop right here… I can see money is going out more in the coming couple of months… new jeans, new shoes, new clothes, body checkup. Notebook & another digital cam perhaps? So much so impulsive thoughts… buying or not? But it’s so contentment!!

“Happiness, like unhappiness is a proactive choice.” So why not choose to live a happy one?

Just be happy, be jolly….and have a happy ‘meri kurimasu’.

Oh and guess what?!! At last, I’ve finally decided to go through the process of endurance beauty early next year, if I’m fit to do it. Let’s wait and see. Yeah!!

Wah! It has been a month since last blog.

Where have I been??

Busy at work. Busy at life.

Well, it’s the last few months to yearend.

Lots of friends and family member celebrate birthdays.

Lots of dinners, lots of karaoke, lots of catch ups.

Christmas is 36 more days to go. Not so long from here.

I suppose when one in a happy mode, everything passes so easily & fast.

So jovial, so in holiday mood, waiting to go holidays J

What about you? What makes you happy?

When it’s good, everything comes good and smooth. When it’s bad, bad things follow one after another.

Feelings. When it’s happy, everything shines, like a beautiful rainbow. When it’s not, everything seems cloudy, rain or storm awaits.

Relationship, same applies. They said if ever someone treats you not well or is giving you hard times, try don’t get bother so much. They said these people are just passers-by in life. They come into your life for temporary, only for short period. And thus, you have no reason to be upset and live miserable.

Remembering they are just passing by is a very strong concept that helps cultivate a happy and healthier life of you.

But, what if they are not ordinary passers-by? Can one remain to be ignorant? And if every now and then they cause chaos, can you believe in the idealism still? You meet them almost everyday. Let’s just forgive and forget. Can???……. It’s easier say than done.

One, two, three, four, five. Five, at least. Some of which barely there - not included.

Ambigious at first, wondering why things keep repeating. Then came the clairvoyance, truth as it may seems. Now not only it occured once but twice. Got me into seeing things clearly, a deeper level at understanding.

As one who always perceived by others, a happy-go-lucky person, someone who live in a worryless world of its own. Yes, of what I could say it’s indeed a strong characteristic, born within the destiny of the strong ones.

Satisfy not, not willing to compromise walking the path unfold. Because I will try not to let you dictate my life. I will fight for it, my vow, two three years back. There’s no maybe, no perhaps. It’s either being the one and only or never.

Since there’s not  much left to spend, I need to move out and on. I want to spread my wings out and fly again. Onto the right trail. Only then, I can see the world more and gets going. Tough for I’m strong, but I am stronger.

I live for the future. Taking two steps at a time, when some just one smaller step. I get out to break away again, to break free and catching up with all the goods that I has been missing eversince and now. It’s all coming to me at sudden, this determination has gotten me to move freely and couldn’t be bother anymore. Like the song ‘Que Sera Sera ~ whatever will be, will be’.

Even if I might not taking the right path, but at least I choose to change. And I’ll take charge of whatever happen until I finally meet Justin somewhere out there. I see paradise then.